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Why is fingering so good?

There are some solid reasons to include fingering during sex:

  • Some women orgasm more easily with manual rather than penetrative sex.
  • The size of your penis isn’t important.
  • Many women bring themselves to climax manually. So they are used to it, and more likely to orgasm if you stimulate them the same way.
  • If you ejaculate quickly, you can continue with your fingers.
  • In 2018, a large survey of 25,000 women showed manual stimulation with sex massively increases the chance of orgasm. Just 35% always orgasm during sex, and 65% usually. But with manual included, it jumped to 86%.

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7. Penetration is a side, not the main dish

You’re going to have to wait until your partner is properly warmed up, but some people like some penetration as part of their finger play. Before you begin make sure to ask your partner if it’s OK for you to go inside. Once you slip a finger or two in, these are a few moves you can try out.

  • A circular, swirling motion inside the vagina. This targets the sensitive area at the opening of the vagina.
  • G-spot stimulation (the spongy area of tissue, found two to three inches inside the vagina’s front wall). There are a few G-spot techniques you can try but the most common is a firm, “come-hither” motion using a finger or two against the vagina front wall.
  • Switch things up by slipping your fingers in the vagina, caressing the G-spot, then slipping them back out, up and over the clitoris. Repeat as necessary.
  • Get handy: use the rest of your hand to caress and massage the clitoris and labia while your fingers move rhythmically in and out.

It’s important to check in with your partner about whether they like what you’re doing. Ultimately, this should be a joint effort, with you both working as a team toward your partner’s ultimate pleasure.

If you’re concerned about finding their G-spot, you can always use a toy specially designed to massage it. Sex toys with a curved or bulbed tip are made to target vibrations and pressure to the G-spot.

An avid multitasker? You might also want to take a rampant rabbit vibrator for a spin, these sex toys are designed to target the clitoris and G-spot simultaneously.

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Fingering techniques

So what should you actually be doing down there? There are three main stages:

1. Foreplay

Women generally enjoy a good amount of foreplay. Although you can use genital touching as foreplay, it’s better to start elsewhere.

Take time exploring each other through your clothes, slowly peeling off each layer as the passion increases.

Kissing, stroking, and nipple sucking are all great ways to get her aroused. Draw it out, spend time teasing her, and make her wonder what’s coming next.

And when you’re ready to move lower, the important thing to remember is gentleness. Gentle stroking the whole area is enough to start with.

Don’t worry about the clitoris to start with, don’t worry about rhythm or anything else. Just touch her and get used to the way she feels.

Stroke around the opening, but don’t enter her. Tease her a little bit, getting close to the clitoris without actually touching it.

Once you feel her starting to swell under your fingers, or she starts producing lubrication, or she asks for more, it’s time to move on to the next stage.

2. Build Up

Now you’re going to start focusing more on the clitoris. With the middle finger on your dominant hand begin circling around the clitoris, but not touching it.

Use the smooth pad of your fingertip. Get closer and closer to the clitoris with each circle until you’re rubbing over it.

If she responds to clitoris touching you can move on; if she doesn’t, go back to circling around it and try again.

Once you can touch the clitoris without it being too sensitive, make sure your finger is well lubricated. You can dip inside her vagina if she’s self-lubricating.

You can then rub the clitoris. There are two main approaches here: up and down or in circles. Different women like different things, so try both and see which she likes best. Start slowly.

Once you’ve found a movement she loved, maintain a consistent and steady rhythm.

As she begins to moan or otherwise let you know that she’s into it, you might want to go a little faster and exert a little more pressure.

3. Climax

When she’s fully aroused and starting the journey to climax, it’s important that you don’t stop what you are doing. The time for teasing and creative experimentation is over.

Keep the same pattern, rhythm, speed, and pressure – unless she asks for more. But you can use a tiny bit more pressure if she’s very close.

Once she begins to climax just keep going. If you find this difficult (perhaps because she’s moving around too much), then keep still but put pressure on the clitoris.

As her orgasm fades, you should lighten the pressure and slow down any stroking to a stop.

Learn How Women Finger Themselves

When girls masturbate they often take hours. Once

When girls masturbate they often take hours. Once the mood is set they enjoy the process of getting turned on and pleasuring themselves.

If a guy (you) knows how to do it right (and takes his time) it can be 10x better for her.

The trick is to build her arousal as high as possible, getting her turned on, gently rubbing her clit, kissing her entire body, talking dirty – that when it comes to inserting your fingers – she’s practically ready to explode with pleasure.

It’s best to insert just one finger first. Do it slowly, go in then pull back. Kiss and suck on her ear as you go in and whisper something naughty to her.

7. Use the Hood

The clit has a naturally occurring hood of skin meant to help soften contact since the clit is super sensitive. Staying right on the clit is often pretty painful, with one woman from the study describing the sensation as “the feeling of sticking a Q-tip way too far into your ear.”

To balance this, most women say that “layering” with the hood brings them the right amount of pleasure without the pain that direct contact with the clit can end up facilitating. To try layering, touch the hood, rubbing it so that the pressure you’re putting on it makes contact with the clit.

1. It’s More Than Sticking Your Finger In and Out

Remember, it’s what’s on the outside that counts. Specifically, we’re talking about the clit. One point echoed throughout the study was that the kind of “fingering” that actually brings women to orgasm is rubbing of the outside area around the clit. In fact, that’s how most women masturbate because it’s what actually feels the best. For the vast majority of women, penetration is nice, but it’s kind of like rubbing your balls – pleasant, but not going to make you come.

Advanced Fingering Techniques

Here’s an advanced fingering technique you can use tonight.

With her lying on her back, slide your hand under her bum, just far enough so that your thumb can reach into her pussy.

Gently insert your thumb into her pussy whilst at the same time erotically massaging her clit with your tongue.

The thumb is slightly thicker and stronger than a finger, and the downward pressure can be a new sensation for her. When combined with the tongue, this is something she’ll really enjoy and keep asking you to do to her again.

3. Start slow

Remember, it’s a marathon not a sprint. Vulvas respond well to stimulation that is sensual and slow. This is because it takes an average of at least 15 minutes of stimulation for a vulva-owner to reach orgasm. Fingering is not an exercise in instant gratification. Instead, it helps to think about it as a story with a beginning, middle and end.

Don’t start at the end of the story by launching straight into clitoral stimulation. Instead, craft a narrative: slowly reel in your partner’s attention, draw out new characters and twists, build up the tension and then – only then, when they are hanging onto each word – is it time to unveil the ending.

Start slow and gentle and steadily increase the speed and intensity as you gravitate towards more sensitive terrain. This isn’t just about setting the right pace: it encourages blood to flow to your partner’s genitals. This amps up their arousal, making them more receptive to intense stimulation and pulling them closer to the beginnings of orgasm.

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Fingering 101: 16 Steps to Finger 

You know why fingering is important, but now the question is: do you know how to finger? Well, don’t worry, you’ve come to the right place. We’re going to teach you everything to need to know about fingering the right way.

1. Know the female anatomy

You don’t need to be a gynecologist, but you should be familiar with the female anatomy. This is truly the first and most crucial step you need to take before going near a vagina. How can you know what to do if you don’t know where everything is? There are four areas you’ll want to learn and pay close attention to:

  • Outer Labia: If you know about pubic hair, then you know about the outer labia. The two lips that are cover the vulva are the outer labia. There aren’t many nerve endings located in the outer labia; however, rubbing them with your hands and fingers can feel arousing. 
  • Inner Labia: So, you have the outer labia where the lips have pubic hair, but there’s also the inner labia. These sets of lips do not have pubic hair on them. The inner labia are made of susceptible and thin skin and can be stimulated by gently stroking them.
  • Vaginal Opening: If you’ve had sex before, the vaginal opening is where the penis is inserted. It’s located further back, closer to the anus. The vaginal opening is also where lubrication takes place. When a woman is aroused, she produces a natural lubricant that secrets from the vaginal opening. This area is where you’ll insert your fingers when fingering your partner.
  • Clitoris: This is one of the most sensitive parts of the female body and is designed only for pleasure. The clitoris is button-like and rests under the clitoral hood. The clitoral hood is formed by the two sides of the inner labia connecting. Now, if you’re not sure where that is, it’s best to look at a diagram or ask your partner.

2. Every woman is different

Before we start talking about how to finger, it’s important to understand that every woman is different. Each vagina has its own space, size, and smell. No two vaginas are the same. When it comes to fingering, you’ll need to adjust your techniques, speed, and pressure. 

It’s crucial to pay attention to your partner because everyone has their sexual preferences. So, if you have a technique that works on other women, don’t assume it’ll work on your partner. You’ll probably need to make adjustments.

3. Prepare ahead of time

Before fingering your partner, it’s vital to have clean, and well-manicured hands. Genitals are an extremely sensitive and delicate area. Your hands touch thousands of different things and are exposed to countless types of bacteria that could harm the vagina.

To avoid any injury or infection, make sure you trim your fingernails, and your hands are clean. Long fingernails can cut and scratch the vulva and that’s a painful experience.

If you’re a Spanish guitar player, you’re going to have a hard time fingering a woman.

4. Tease her

You can’t just go right into fingering your partner. If there’s one piece of advice to remember, it’s to start slowly. There’s no need to rush; you’ll get there eventually. To start, spend time in foreplay; making out, touching, caressing. 

And then slowly, work your way down to her legs. As you move down her body, rub against her crotch with either your thigh, pelvis, or hand. 

Don’t rush through this as foreplay is what warms up the body. It’ll take between fifteen to twenty minutes for her to become aroused, and during that time you should tease her. That’s the best part of foreplay, not getting what you want right away. You’ll feel the intensity gradually increase.

5. Use lubricant

If you spend enough time on foreplay and focus on pleasing arousing your partner, you probably won’t need lube to get started. The vagina will be lubricated enough. However, after some time, the vagina will dry out, and you’ll need to use artificial lube.

In general, you should always have lube in your nightstand; you never know when you’ll need it. Using lube will increase sensitivity and reduce discomfort. Silicone lubricant lasts long and feels smooth against the skin.

6. There’s a beginning, middle, and end

Think of fingering like reading a storybook. There’s a beginning, a middle, and an end. Fingering is not something that starts off as a bam! You need to start slowly and sensually. 

The average woman needs 15-20 minutes to become aroused, and intense fingering action right in the beginning isn’t going to do the trick. Start slowly, and focus on foreplay.

After some time, you can work your way down to the vagina, slowly rubbing and grinding against it. When you feel there’s enough sexual tension, then you can slip a finger underneath her underwear. From there, you can gradually increase your finger technique by sliding your fingers up and down, and in and out of the vulva, hitting the G-spot, and then going for the bullseye which is the clitoris.

7. Use your fingers

Well, what would fingering be without your fingers? Those little guys are the ones who make the magic happen. Fingering a vagina is exactly what it sounds like. After you slip a finger inside, you’ll need to move your finger in and out.

Start with your index finger, and then slip your middle finger in. Feel if it’s wet enough. If it feels a little dry, add lube. 

Play around with different speeds and rhythms until you find one which suits her. Start slowly and gradually increase speed.

8. Experiment with touch

When it comes to fingering the vagina, you’ll need to experiment with touch. Every woman is different, and touch is the best way to figure out which fingering action she likes. Women typically enjoy clitoral stimulation, penetration with your fingers, or doing both at the same time.

You can circle, stroke, or rub different parts of the vagina, including the inner/outer labia, and clitoris. Go up and down, side to side, use one or a couple of fingers. While experimenting ask her, “do you like it better when I do this?”

9. Find the G-spot

Once you start fingering her vagina, it’s time to find her G-spot. With your index and middle finger, make a “come here” motion. The G-spot is 2-3 deep and upwards. You’ll feel a rough patch of skin inside the vagina – that’s it. 

Once you feel it, start slowly and build the thrusting up. After thrusting for a while, you can mix up your fingering technique and work your way up to the clitoris.

10. Hit the bullseye: The clitoris

If you want to blow her mind, then you need to focus on clitoral stimulation. When it comes to sex, the clitoris is your golden egg; it’s the answer to orgasms. Once you have her going, and you can see she’s highly aroused, then it’s time you have her clit some much-needed attention. 

Most women need repetitive clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm; spot stimulation is key. So, find a rhythm that she enjoys and don’t change it when you see her starting to reach orgasm.

11. Find the rhythm

You can slip a finger or two inside of her and move it in and out, but if you don’t find the right rhythm, nothing is going to happen. Focus on finding a rhythm that gets them excited. If your partner is enjoying what you’re doing, don’t switch it up. Rhythmic stimulation is the key to reach orgasm. 

If you find the right speed and pressure for your partner, keep it going. The fingering technique could be two fingers, four fingers – it doesn’t matter. What matters is that whatever you’re doing is working.

12. Don’t be shy to let her show you

There may be a moment where she stops you and touches herself in front of you. This is a great opportunity for you to pay attention and see what she’s doing. She’s showing you what she likes and how she likes it. 

Watch the movements she’s making and mimic them; her body language will guide you. She knows her vagina better than anyone else.

13. Let her tell you when to stop

This is a common issue when it comes to fingering. Men tend to stop when they feel it’s enough, but, in reality, it takes around 20 minutes for a woman to reach orgasm. Rather than stopping when you feel it’s over, wait for her to tell you when she’s done.

Focus on her body language; she’ll let you know she’s had enough. If your hand is getting sore, trying switching hands or performing oral sex. If you want her to orgasm, don’t pressure her. Let her orgasm when she’s ready.

14. Pay attention to her reaction

As you’re fingering your partner, you’ll notice her behavior change. As she becomes aroused, it’s crucial you pay attention to the sounds and directions they make. If you change the technique and notice her getting quiet, then stop and try something else. 

If she’s moaning, shaking, and breathing deeply, you’re on the right track. You need to listen to your partner and learn their body language; once you crack this, the world is your oyster.

15. Keep communication open

Please remember this sex tip: without communication, you won’t have good sex. It’s just that simple. Communication is everything when it comes to sex. You’re not having sex with yourself. 

This is with someone with entirely different emotions, preferences, and feelings. Ask your partner what they liked, and what they didn’t like. Don’t take it personally; this is your opportunity to improve.

16. Enjoy the experience

This is an important sex tip. If you want your partner to have fun when you’re fingering her, you’re going to need to relax. There’s nothing worse than watching your partner stress out during intimacy. 

If you’re not experienced with fingering, don’t worry. It takes time and practice until you have a pace and technique that suits you and your partner.

Now you know what to do, but it’s also good to know what you need to avoid. Here are six common fingering mistakes you should avoid making.

Frequently Asked Questions

FAQ #1

A lot of guys wonder whether they should be using a lubricant to make her even wetter. This is a tricky question as the answer really depends on a girl. Some don’t like any lube (and obviously don’t need it) while others love it. However, we recommend trying lube at least once because if she has never used it, she may have no idea whether she likes it or not. If you decide to go for it, the choose a water-based lube to avoid any adverse skin reactions. I would say to avoid ones that promise “tingling” sensations, especially if she is new to lubricants. Just keep in mind that lube will give her a helping hand in getting wet if she’s really tight down there. It will enhance the experience even more and help her to enjoy your attention to the most.

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